Confession: I didn’t want to get married when Keith Proposed. (Even though I said “Yes”!)

It wasn’t Keith… I just wasn’t sure I was ready to get married period. He asked me in May. The date was set for November. I didn’t work out all the fears about it until October.

But… by October (2007) with lots of prayer

I had peace and knew 100% I was all in. (Just in time so I didn’t have to make a run for it! Haha)

I had never been in a super serious relationship. I had mostly always been the friend, not typically the girlfriend, and that was my comfort zone.

Keith and I are VERY opposite in many ways. We were friends, but being “BEST FRIENDS”, wasn’t the way we started our relationship. I struggled with that for awhile. I wanted to hang out and do all the things together. But we had VERY different interest.

He didn’t want to “run” for fun. hahaha.

And I didn’t want to play Madden, Call of Duty, or Gears of War.

I like to sing, and dance… appreciate the arts and theatre.

Keith- Notre Dame, Cowboys, and UK.

all the sports…

I’m always setting goals and planning the challenges I’ve set up for myself and what I want to do with my life.

Keith- Can you just figure out what you are making for dinner?

Over time, I started realizing that maybe I wanted Keith to fill the missing “friends” slots like I had once had that were now empty in my life… or had expectations for him to fill my “girl time hangs” and do ‘this or that’ thing with me. I was always disappointed when he ‘did them’, but didn’t enjoy.

But, about 10 years ago, I started filling those thoughts with scripture.

No one can fill us or satisfy us like Jesus. There is NO other person who can meet the needs we have to “complete” us.

Not a friend, not a spouse, not money, a career, or our children.

True joy and happiness is only found in Christ.

When I released Keith in my head to “satisfy” my “friend” needs for entertainment, fitness, goal setting, or to be more like me and enjoy the things that I think every person on the planet should enjoy, I shifted into leaning on the Lord more and more to be the full source of my joy.

I found peace, perspective, and comfort there.

I remember in 2019 thinking Keith is my husband, I love him, so much, but I wouldn’t say he’s my best friend.

I would cringe when people would say “Marry your best friend.”

What if you didn’t?

I shared with him how I wish we were best friends and could do more of our favorite things with each other.

But, friendships are built over time and through seasons of life.

And now—-over the last 3 years… TODAY, outside of Christ, he IS my best friend

2020— 2023, the world went crazy, and yet I feel like we’ve only grown closer and closer.

Marriage has been sweeter and sweeter, and I’m so grateful.

There’s a connection that we didn’t use to have. We are more and more like minded than we use to be about our values, and vision, and spiritual beliefs. Our lives are more aligned.

I think that marriage is a relationship that can continue to grow if you are up for it.

It was good before, but now it’s great.

For 16 years we have been growing up together and I like it.

Love you lots!!!

Happy anniversary Keith Griffin!!!